Incognito wrote:

Put it this way, what is it about matey that makes her not marriage material.. She appears to be wotless and only good for bedroom tricks - swinging off shandalears and all that.

To this day I got brothas saying the best sex they ever got was from a whitey...they wouldn't marry one though. Maybe it's bcos Black women tend not to engage in prostitutional degrading sex to keep her man! So I have heards from many a Black brother your White mistress lets off too easy and feels no way in engaging in activities which allows man to rule and dominate her. Sorry, that's my opinion.

On the scale detailing the 411 on dating married men there'd be a place for everything said far so I guess it's for you to know what you stand for and what defines you.

Personally I'm a one woman man but the 1 time I went astray during a rough patch the only thing I gained was being able to indulge in more conversation and gossip with the lads - buty generally, when the boys are talking about their womanising I'm usually the odd one out.

Now I'm an unmarried man, I might try some of this being normal sh!t - but then maybe if I did that before I'd be still married...oh the irony....now, where da whitey@

Mmm well I kinda messed with a married man. While me and my ex were on a break he went and got married, far as I was concerned it was a marriage of convenience (he wanted that from me but tru I wouldn't do it he found and married someone within 2mths of knowing her) Anyway he kept coming to see me but it never lasted long (the woman thinking she had a proper marriage with this man decided to call me, big mistake!). Bare passa passa ensued and yes it ended on a bad note.

I got another ex on my case he wasn't married when I was with himbut he isnow and has akid. He tells me he still likes me and is more than willing to cheat on his wife if I said the word, even came to see me on christmas day when his wife wasn't around. Me and this guy are friends butI've told him repeatedly no nookie nah gwan, me and him had our time. Just concerns me greatly the lack of respect for his wife and the vows he took, if I called him now said yeah I'm horny he would be here in a flash.

@ Incognito

When a black woman knows what makes u tick she will pull it off with class, when a white woman attempts to do what makes u tick you'd have to say pass!

facetygal wrote: @ Facetygal

Hi sis, some people might ask. Doyou think it is wise to associate with 'friends' like these?

Obviously this guy has one aim on his mind, and that is to get a supply of the 'sweetness' he remembers from back in the day(assuming of course your relationship before was an intimate one). This means he has no respect for his wife (that's obvious) but also for you in that he would be asking you to compromise your principles in that way.

It is one thing for a man to becool with the knowing hehas beencheating and dogging on his wife. But to ask a female 'friend' to be ready to live with the knowledge that she laid down andopened her legs (excuse my crudeness) to a man she knows has a wife and therefore become a party to his slackness is another. This shows a man that doesn't really deserve the title of 'friend'.

Just my opinion for what it's worth.

Respect

Nope, dont think a woman should be bagging a married man, however i must admit that some of these women are why a soem marriages last long, as they keep reminding a man about what he wants... yeah he is putting it at a risk for a likkle peice of pleasure, but sometimes sexually this woman will do things he wife thinks is disrespectful.

- i am not married, but i sure as hell will prefere to be the married one, take half his sh!t in the divorce, rather than the side one who gets nothing and that only his boys no bout for the share disrespect of the mistress -

(i know women do it to- on a level i know a woman who cheated on her husband for 15 years- 12 years after her son was born she was taken to court for Paternity testing all three of her kids and were fathered by her side man- women who do it have a lot more to worry about - women who do it are in my terms are silly, but brave never the less)

- i dont judge people for doing it however, as i am not god -

Backatya wrote: I hear what ur sayin but in honesty most of my friends have wanted to get in my drawers at some stage, or I've had a thing for them at some stage. The key is once we bothknow the score we can get past that issue and still have a good friendship. I know he has more respect for me than he does for his wife, and if I needed something or someone to talk to he would be there.

The 411 on dating a married man....



1) ahhhhh....don't

I have to say, I agree with Backatcha re: lack of respect for you Facetygyal, not to talk of his wife or his honouring of his wedding vows. Man has little or no respect for his self! He maybe wants to review his relationship with his self.

Cheers me dear, aside from my ex and the arranged marriage passa passa I ain't been with a married man and don't intend to. No Stacey Slater bizness ah gwan yah so

BP - too right. Me I've never really had it in me to sleep with more than one woman. I can appreciate sleeping with someone else during a baron patch but sleeping with a mistress or two then coming back home to sleep with the wife is never me...which is why for the most part one relationshp would have to finish.

Saying that, even wen I ended my marriage, there was a couple of other potential women on the scene and it was amazing how most people saw them as just another woman or another source of sex as opposed to a women I shared core values with.