Do You Have White Friends?

Ijeoma · (#1 (**permalink**))

And by that I dont mean classmates....or colleagues you have pleasant chats with...

I mean best friends, 'best man at your wedding' kind of friends, 'he/she knows more about me than anyone else' type of friend

....I used to watch this show called 'Any Day Now' about a white woman and a black woman who grew up during the sixties in the south of the US...They were best friends despite all types of difficulties and whatnot...

It had me thinking that I dont have any white friends like that, in fact, all my best CLOSE friends are black.

I can have fun with people of other race, laugh and have serious talks, but when it comes down to it, I dont see them as my good and close friends....

I was just wondering what the case is with you guys

Am I missing out?confused3

mike pain · (#2 (**permalink**))

.....I' ve got a white friend I’ve known since primary school, he's now in the army, I also went to his wedding reception....

my mums keeps in regular contact with a white mum of one of my former primary school frineds.

CeeCee · (#3 (**permalink**))

Ijeoma,

I hada lot more White friends(or Jewish in some of the cases), than Blackand couldn't help but the have them because my environmment , my schooling and unfortunately, when I was a very sensitivelittle Black girl, I turned to them because the Black kids were( the ones that I grew up with) jeering me for being " White". They were more than my business associates. Far as the White people I was raised around, it was a" family affair "and what I mean that is that for example(s) 1) We played with them, were invited over their home for dinner, took us with their kids skating or bike ridingif her got in trouble we would run to each others houses for shelter)2) I used to call me street" Wild Kingdom"( After that show)because everything crazy went on there. There were also interracial dating/marriages "ho-ing" around with them and they were open and aproved. Even ith one of my White friends, there were rumors that her White " father"(?!?!) was raising another man's kid as some said the biological father was Black or Native American. It's 2007 and as of this day, some of the Black neighbors here reminisce about those crazy days. It was rellay something else!I remembered one of my good friends. She was White, but she ( I had mentioned on here before) hated her OWN people, other White people, but to me she was a good friend because she was always there in my time of crisis, she wasn't one of type of White girl that were only good friends to a point...she was really all good. In general, we had deep friendships.

If there is one thing life has taught me is not to let one's classification dictate who is the better person. I have know good people from all races, just as I know may bad ones. Sometimes, I hate it when people say, " We can't/don't have anything in common because of ---------------) I often wondered what do ones background have to with them as a person? Don't get me wrong, my eye is open to those who pretend to like me, but if they are as good as my other friend, then I would be cool with them.

Prince Hakeem · (#4 (**permalink**))

Dada · (#5 (**permalink**))

I have friends period.

I have little interest in their colour more in their personalities, Character ,morals and values.

If they meet the standards their in. If not I dont' want to know them at which point I might recognise what colour or lack of character they have.

Black_Power · (#6 (**permalink**))

no

nd deffo no pakis either

babygirl44 · (#7 (**permalink**))

I pretty much grew up in an all white area in the suburbs, went to a school where there were only 2 other black people that I can remember and had no relatives nearme of a similar ageso I've got white friends. Funnily enough I actually didn't have any real black friends until I was about 13 because when I went to secondary school I tried to be friends with most of the black kids who were still low innumbersbecause I wanted to have friends who were the same as me and I thought it was dysfunctional to only have white friends. I wanted to connect with them because I felt a strong urge that I wanted to be their friend and it would please my parents but initially as CeeCee said many of them they would say I was 'too white' (whatever that is) and I was ridiculed. It didn't help that I lived in Enfield whilst most of the black kids came from Tottenham or Edmonton as I couldn't get the bus with them after school where the real fun happened. It was with sheer irony that my first real black friendship was with a girl who had also been rejected for being 'too white!lol

Now I'm 30 I would say that I have a 50/50 mix of black, white and a couple of mixed race friends. Surprisingly though I've never had an Asian friend. I was friends with a Chinese girl for a while but the fact that her parents wouldn't speak English in my presence made me feel suspicious of them and I also had an Indian friend when I was very young but her older sister was a racist so I stopped hanging out with her because even at that young I wasn't going to tolerate racism. Since then I've never had an Asian friend and unfortunatley the ones I've come into contact with since have been sneeky andwere masters at lying.

comfortandjoy · (#8 (**permalink**))

RESS wrote:

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One must communicate with White people in this Racist environment only as much as is necessary for survival.

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Melissa · (#9 (**permalink**))

NO - weren't allowed to play with the white kids too much when i was little and the white kids in school kept themselves to themselves.

At Secondary school i formed relationships with a few asian girls who i see occasionally now. Always got on better with the asians in the workplace too.

Only really have 2 white 'friends' and they are both from work, one scots, married to an albanian and one Spanish.

Black Lion · (#10 (**permalink**))

--Edditt--

Thanks C.M

CashMoney · (#11 (**permalink**))

Thanks for sharing that Apedamak

Good read

As for the question I have two

From secondary school. Really safe cats. Helped me get an interview for my first ever job as they both worked their at the time and speeched the manager one at the pub.

Dont speak that much but when we do it's love

Judge J · (#12 (**permalink**))

Thats deep Apedamek. I am aware of the Turks racisim, but to be honest with you I do not really encounter any Greeks.

On the subject of white friends. Hmmmm, I am the kind of person who can chill with anyone , but to be honest with you, even though I have made friends with various white people, I wouldn't say I am close to any of them. If I see them Ill talk with them.There is notany white person who I will say is in my inner circle of friends I know I can talk about certain thgings with.

With the Asians, I get on with some of them, however I find them extremly dodgy at times.

I went to Uni in the Midlands and what I noticed was that the Asian girls were safe with me, however if they see you outside Uni hours and they are with a group of males they will blank you. The Asian guys are kinda split. Some I could mingle with TOO AN EXTENT, others were straight up racist.

p.s Also with the females there are some who will suck up to you to get lecture notes

I feel more at home with my Black friends all, in all.

blessingfromgod · (#13 (**permalink**))

Apedemak wrote:

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No.

Even though I grew up in Enfield and went to majority white schools including one private school.

The few that I was around in secondary school were racist, BNP supporters on the real. Myself and a few other breddahs got the, ''but you're alright'' treatment and they'd openly vomit racial BS like, ''Its all about black vs white innit!?''. There werea fewof us breddahs in the crew and a few irish about as well, we were all tougher than them and they wouldn't go NEAR a black area, theres a border, Palmers Green, where the population gets more Greek, Turkish and Black toward the North Circular. I live in Palmers Green. The white kids wouldn't go near there at all and would have beef with diffrent crews and were always afraid of Black crews who'd roll up to Enfield and cause trouble, they'd call us the Black NF cause we chilled with the crakkkers.

As said I didn't live in their area and kept my roots alot more than those who did, others would chill in black areas and more or less bring trouble to Enfield,my bredwin is likea 6 foot 8 tonks street tough David Lammby .lol. Hes still in prision for some BS.All the local bad bwoy drug dealers were either black or irish. Got to the point where I got pissed off at their BS after a crew nearly killed me in a beef and I stopped chilling in that area. Cowper Gardens. Its notorious. Cause I used to skip around like most of us Black and other kids who went to the school in Enfield and chilled around the area I didn't know how gangish things had got so only got myself in more trouble chilling with people in my own area. As they were mixed, Greek, Turkish and Black.

Fell out with the Greeks as my friends family turned racist on me, they thought I was some dumb poor N****r, and literally took to turning their back on me on the street, literally. Otherpeeps inthe local crewsstarted turning against me and things got dangerous... used to stay in and hide out here on BNV to keep off the street .lol.Cause the greeks are all close and I lost my friend the local crew, mixed, Greek, Turk and some idiot blacks whoaremore or less thug dogs forTurkish andGreek gangs kinda outsted me from their crew and even talked about shooting/robbing me. Not nice. My dad warned me about my friend a while ago, they only act black and think we'e cool but don't respect us. A lot of black youths out there don't see that.

Because I stopped chilling with the other crew up north they aren't too friendly either and were also looking to cause me trouble one prick in particular who'd I'd love totear to peices, Adam,they go around robbing drug dealers and stuffbut as Inearly died and have scars fromfighting for themthey'll probably leave off. Have to be weary of the local crew, would kick off a beef if they tried it. Not as though I've done anything to anyone. Its all racism and envy. It runs deep with those people, the turks and the greeks... all of them in general,miseducation, a lot of them look down on us and think we're all into something assuming you've sold some crack to get a new jacket or some BS and think they can cause you trouble for little or no reason. Have never been a drug dealer or anything, used to be a theif, drug dealing was never my thing. .lol. Family even tried to get me to be a locksmith... I mean like, yeah, teach the kid how to break into buildings and steal cars like WTF? :?

Bit of honesty there for you, not quite as chummy as others but thats what happens when you have a deadbeat dad. Grew up with people on the street but was always smart, would bunk off school and sit in the libary and would always read just couldn't stay at home with a monster in the house. Even had me a credit card generator, was on fraud scams at 16, bought me a cool remote control car and a few/loads ofWar Hammer models.

Ahhhhh... long since changed, BNV and other places have been good places to kick it over the years. Not as though I don't like people from other races, I just don't trust them at all. If I ever get jooked it'll probably be the turks, KF deleted that thread a while ago .lol. Shouldn't happen.

Interesting read blk2hug

Do I haveWhite friends? No, not since school/college days!ALL of my FRIENDS are Black, as I feel I havenothing in common with them.I like to talk about Black issuesand I have a need to feelconnected to the people I class asmy friends... Work is prob the only place I mingle with non Blacks...that's enough for me.

Bredder Tukoma · (#14 (**permalink**))

Nope. And Im not looking for that to change either. A white friend is a contradiction in terms.