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Shemsi en Tehuti · (#26 (**permalink**))

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YES! I'm African so it natural for me my friends and family, in fact im going to a naming ceremony tomorrow and I'm waiting for the tailor to deliver my guinea material.

what normally happens in wedding is that the bride/groom choose the colour and material so everyone is wearing the same thing or in some cases you buy the material to be used so they don't have to be stressing about going shopping for some African material and suggest a tailor, even in African weddings some people( those not in the inner circle) still wear suit and formal dress so you can always give them that option

Well, just because your Afrikan doesn't mean anything. I have seen alot of opposition from Nigerians (some Igbo) who are Christian.

Black-pride · (#27 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Shemsi en Tehuti

Well, just because your Afrikan doesn't mean anything. I have seen alot of opposition from Nigerians (some Igbo) who are Christian.

How do u mean??...
are they(Igbo) scared of clashing tradition/culture with their christian-beliefs??

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#28 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Black-pride

How do u mean??...
are they(Igbo) scared of clashing tradition/culture with their christian-beliefs??

Man...I've met many Igbo sisters here who would call it an abomination to get married outside of church. One sister I used to talk to was very accomplished, educated (physical therapist), had a strong family, but we fell out because the conversation came up that I would never get married in a Church. I then went on to say I would rather do it traditionally how the Igbo do it, and she said in the churchIS how the Igbo do it....oh boy! That just spiraled to a place of no return, as she was offended that I didn't consider Christian customs in Nigeria to be Afrikan. Felt like I didn't respect her and all kinds of stuff. I told her I do respect you, which is why I look to the traditional Igbo traditions, absent the Christian stuff.

It is funny how some women try to change men. She even told me that she knew I wasn't Christian, but thought that since I was "black American" that I would turn from my heathen ways...LOL. Oh well, she turned out to be a lune anyway...

astmartins · (#29 (**permalink**))

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Quite true ...a Christian Nigerian sista was shocked when I mentioned having a traditional wedding in Africa..(because i was so moved by my sistas wedding...made church weddings look so stale bereft of meaningl)...anyways the thought of Tradition conjured up in her images of fetish..black magic and Idol worshipping..man I was perplexed..this is about us as a people before Christianity and Islam...yet this same people would tell you they are in no way brainwashed????

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#30 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by astmartins

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Quite true ...a Christian Nigerian sista was shocked when I mentioned having a traditional wedding in Africa..(because i was so moved by my sistas wedding...made church weddings look so stale bereft of meaningl)...anyways the thought of Tradition conjured up in her images of fetish..black magic and Idol worshipping..man I was perplexed..this is about us as a people before Christianity and Islam...yet this same people would tell you they are no way brainwashed????

Indeed...when you actually see a traditional Afrikan ceremony, and understand the meaning, a traditional European wedding becomes almost stupid to even consider as they are so superficial void of meaning.

Incognito · (#31 (**permalink**))

Every African wedding I've been to simply reminds me of how much we have lost. The idea of standing up on the aisle wearing a business mans tux makes my blood curdle like I want to punch a brick wall or something.

Vubundada_Kandaba · (#32 (**permalink**))

Why are people surprised about African Christians? Just take a trip back to Africa and go to any random Christian House and I can guarantee you that 98% of them have a Huge Picture of a Blonde Blue eyed Jesus hanging on their walls. Just three Weeks ago I went to a Sudanese House in Dallas Texas from Houston Texas. Big mansion type of house with three new Cars in the garage, and when I entered the living room, right in front of me was a Huge Picture of a Blonde Blue Eyed Jesus in a Glass Frame. A huge brand New Flat Screen TV was tuned to "Emmanuel TV", a Christian Satellite Channel coming directly from Nigeria, apparently it is a popular Channel for us African Christians.

On TV was this Fake looking Nigerian preacher furiously preaching to the Flock like as if though Revelation is coming tomorrow and he kept repeating the same passage over and over again like he forgot the rest of the sermon, but being the good guest, I kept hard from laughing out loud. It was like watching President George Bush speak, mortfying to say the least. But the White Jesus picture explained it all to me about the level of Knowledge this Sudanese Family have in regards to African History. These are the type of people who believe that Africans have not contributed anything of substance to Civilization and will most likely throw you out of their house if you begin to Educate them about African Contributions to Civilization.

Congratulations Shemsi on the upcoming marriage. You two look perfect together. So where will the Honey Moon be? With all the Money they are paying you at Lockheed Martins (I think that is where you said you work), you can afford to vacation anywhere on Earth. May I suggest Botswana, Namibia, Tanzania, Mozambique or Egypt.

rachie · (#33 (**permalink**))

Congratulations on your upcoming marriage.

Everyone i know who is African has got married in a church. The reception party was where people usually followed their traditions. If the person was marrying somebody of a different culture then the reception party usually infused a mix a both cultures.

Shemsi en Tehuti · (#34 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Vubundada_Kandaba

Why are people surprised about African Christians? Just take a trip back to Africa and go to any random Christian House and I can guarantee you that 98% of them have a Huge Picture of a Blonde Blue eyed Jesus hanging on their walls. Just three Weeks ago I went to a Sudanese House in Dallas Texas from Houston Texas. Big mansion type of house with three new Cars in the garage, and when I entered the living room, right in front of me was a Huge Picture of a Blonde Blue Eyed Jesus in a Glass Frame. A huge brand New Flat Screen TV was tuned to "Emmanuel TV", a Christian Satellite Channel coming directly from Nigeria, apparently it is a popular Channel for us African Christians.

On TV was this Fake looking Nigerian preacher furiously preaching to the Flock like as if though Revelation is coming tomorrow and he kept repeating the same passage over and over again like he forgot the rest of the sermon, but being the good guest, I kept hard from laughing out loud. It was like watching President George Bush speak, mortfying to say the least. But the White Jesus picture explained it all to me about the level of Knowledge this Sudanese Family have in regards to African History. These are the type of people who believe that Africans have not contributed anything of substance to Civilization and will most likely throw you out of their house if you begin to Educate them about African Contributions to Civilization.

Congratulations Shemsi on the upcoming marriage. You two look perfect together. So where will the Honey Moon be? With all the Money they are paying you at Lockheed Martins (I think that is where you said you work), you can afford to vacation anywhere on Earth. May I suggest Botswana, Namibia, Tanzania, Mozambique or Egypt.

Thanks VK....I must say that we haven't even picked a honey moon yet. We are debating between staying a week in Costa Rica or a cruise in the West Caribbean. Things have been happening so quickly that we haven't booked it yet.

Oh yeah, I used to work for Lockheed Martin, but I quit with them and started my own company doing engineering consulting. My long term goals are to develop business entities that PRODUCE/MANUFACTURE (not another merchant or retailer) for Pan-Afrikans so I needed to make definitive steps towards that.

Oh yeah, that reminds me....look for my PM....

Incognito · (#35 (**permalink**))

Many of our parents simply use these occasions to draw card on each other. Growing up it was like every parent was waiting to see the children from other families end up in jail or come in with their teenage bellies. Getting a career or married was alien and caused scorn and envy and embarrassment to the degree it was in the interest of others to see you go down.

Maat · (#36 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by Shemsi en Tehuti

...if you had a traditional Afrikan wedding? Be honest here, as I know most of you probably come from strict Christian or Muslim backgrounds.

My fiance and I are having a traditional Afrikan wedding (in the Ghanaian/Ewe tradition, mixing some other parts of Afrika) and I must say that the experience is showing the true colors of some acquaintances we have as well as some family.

Whether it is a marriage, naming ceremony, or other Afrikan ritual, do you see your family and friends actually supporting you in your Afrikan-ness?

This is great news!

We married twice (one according to the law in a registry office) and the real one was a Nuwaubian wedding (according to our culture). The Nuwaubian one was the big event. Most of our family members came even though they didn't fully overstand it. If anything those that didn't come did so for other beefs among other members not the actual wedding.

We had white and gold attire for the ceremony and our African attire for the after party. It's your day so don't make anyone stop you guys doing what you want to.

Those that you need to be there I'm sure will be. I hope it goes well for you both.

Taysense · (#37 (**permalink**))

I'm curious what exactly is traditional african ceremony? There are many different culture in african, and religion has influences those cultures. Ofcourse I'm lucky enough to come from a culture that is rich, and a people that have their own language, share one religion and keep their traditions alive. Islam is part of our culture and tradition.