I was watching new episodes of the O.C and it got me thinking about common interests amongst partners

I always imagined a perfect girl would - apart from looking nice - know as much football/boxing as me, like to play video games, etc, but is that a girl or is that a friend with t~ts

Is the ony important thing in a relationship an open mind or is it important to have common interests

Do you and your current partner have aaot in common

Any replies will be apppreciated!!!

I think it helps if you have common interests and things you can share. If not then at least appreciate understand and accpet your partners interests because thats an important part of their self identity. You partner may even have new things that you could grow to like, One ex girl taught me about bowling which previously I thought was for fat old white men but now all my friends and I go.

It rare that you will find a woman interested in or understanding of your love for footy sorry bro.... There are out there as Ive seen here and no doubt will be reminded LOL but are few and far between. One other ex of mine used to come and play pool with my boys and I, and she fitted in perfectly and enjoyed it and that was heavy but not likely to meet one like that again. If you can learn somethingthey like doing and join in or teach them one of your interests that they are ameanable to then thats as good as having the same things in common to begin with.

Problems come when you cant appreciate or accept what your partner does. When you start giving them stress for doing what comes naturally to them. If I got together with a chick that love raving everyday then I should expect her to carry on cos thats what she does... no use getting jealous and vexed after you knew what she was about innit?Also I dunno why a lot of women in my experience see sports as a threat to them and the relationship?? (note I said a lot, not all). They see the man with his friends as abandonment confused3.If my woman wants to jam with her friends thats not my business innit?? I dunno...

Dont be trying to change the person you're with into an 'ideal'. Where did your notion of an ideal come from. You aint perfect. You fell for them how they were so if you change them afteryou wont be happyblkfingerwag.

LOL Went rambling a bit CM but ya get me....

interesting thread I think.

offtopic.gifBB can you play ISS?? (pro evo3) where did they make you???

PS boxing is the most PURE sport outside a race. One on one, its all down to you and no one else. Lives on the line. Fittest athletes bar none, you against him. Primal. The skills are the best in any sports, they have to be tactically aware of everything happening and reactions have to be so sharp. Watching them bob and weave and strike is like poetry for me... Also the emotion cant be matched by anything except football.

Sorry CM back to topic now LOL

me and my man we have much in common as well as different.we tolerate to a certain degree what we dont like about each other.

I'm single.

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(edit: but about the question ... lovers need to share at least one thing in common that they enjoy doing together. Erm, or maybe I should say one thing apart from the obvious... so that they can hang out and spend quality time together.)

i agree@ tjay, at least one thing in common

I was watching new episodes of the O.C and it got me thinking about common interests amongst partners

I always imagined a perfect girl would - apart from looking nice - know as much football/boxing as me, like to play video games, etc, but is that a girl or is that a friend with t~ts

Is the ony important thing in a relationship an open mind or is it important to have common interests

Do you and your current partner have aaot in common

Any replies will be apppreciated!!!

It's funny I met my wife in a fundraising sports activity. She was the captain of a female netball team and the regional captain. Top player and leader. I was captain of the all male team and we were raising money for Hurricane Gilbert which had hit Jamaica.

I was impressed by her natural leadership and command not only of herself but her team.There was some tough andstrong character sisterson the team but she was clearly the boss. So we definietly share that dominant personality.

Funny thing is outside playing she does not like sports or watching it, unlike myself who loves all kind of sports. She likes cricket only because she was shamed into liking it by her mother, a Caribbean woman to the max and followed her husband to games for decades to watch him play from young. After she went to a game she loved it, so we have that in common going to big games.

We are both the same complexion and we like that mutually both darkies and proud of it. She loves her country and the Caribbean and would pack up and go home tommorow without blinking and loathes this country. So we share that passion for our countries and region.

But I suppose the thing which really makes her stand apart from me and complments me actually comes from her being a natural leader. She has very strong beliefs politically and morally and culturally and is non compromising and doesn't care who likes it or not. She is very comfortable being the only dissenter in the crew like myself.

We both train regualarly but not together. She knows I am a very hard nut and she would get stressed under that pressure so we train seperately.

We are intellectually very compatible but we operate in completely different ways. I am very focused, she is all over the place with pure energy intellectually and simply keeping up with her is a strugge. We read completely differnt things, so forget trying to get her to read anything I enjoy. But verbal communication is our common ground there. She won't read stuff but will debate in endlessly.

But I think Fauzan has identified the common ground for me.

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I would never be with someone i have a lot in common with. I want my woman to be the complete opposite of me. If my woman happens to like sport all of a sudden, i will commit suicide.

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My partner and I are opposites on most things except the most important - Family, responsibility, our future together, social standing and morals.

I pretend to enjoy/appreciate hip-hop, computering and his expensive toys. He pretends to enjoy/appreciate soca,chick flicksand shoe shopping

ever had a partner who was stuck in there ways. e.g decided without going, that theatre was crap and wouldnt budge, etc etc

OH man…

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