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A while back someone had asked me a question on whether or not I felt I let a few good men slip away. I replied by saying we all at some point have let a few good ones slip away. The only problem is is that I can't stop thinking about the one who was more than good to me that I let slip away. I was 19 when I met him and he was 48 and I'm not going to lie in the beginning he was what one might consider a "trick". He was the only dude that actually cared, the only thing that I didn't like about him was that at times he could be emotionally abusive. I have to admit I brought a lot of that on myself because I was a real chickenhead back then and the truth hurt. He was lightskinned (and the reason behindmy post: I got a color complex) and he made me feel inferior at times. Nevertheless I still keep in contact with him till this day. The last time he spent money on me was when I was 21 after that I would beg and hound his ass and he was like he was through with me because I had a lot of growing up to do. At the time I really wasn't giving a damn about what he was saying I just wanted to have my sugar daddy back because I was out there in the world dirt broke and ****ed up. But when I started getting my life together he started to seem like he was coming around to trusting me again, but every time we started to get close he would start coming out of his face saying shit. I don't even care about the money anymore, I really want to be with him. There's a part of me that says to move on but then there's another part that just can't let go because I've known him for ten years.

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A while back someone had asked me a question on whether or not I felt I let a few good men slip away. I replied by saying we all at some point have let a few good ones slip away. The only problem is is that I can't stop thinking about the one who was more than good to me that I let slip away. I was 19 when I met him and he was 48 and I'm not going to lie in the beginning he was what one might consider a "trick". He was the only dude that actually cared, the only thing that I didn't like about him was that at times he could be emotionally abusive. I have to admit I brought a lot of that on myself because I was a real chickenhead back then and the truth hurt. He was lightskinned (and the reason behindmy post: I got a color complex) and he made me feel inferior at times. Nevertheless I still keep in contact with him till this day. The last time he spent money on me was when I was 21 after that I would beg and hound his ass and he was like he was through with me because I had a lot of growing up to do. At the time I really wasn't giving a damn about what he was saying I just wanted to have my sugar daddy back because I was out there in the world dirt broke and f**ked up. But when I started getting my life together he started to seem like he was coming around to trusting me again, but every time we started to get close he would start coming out of his face saying shit. I don't even care about the money anymore, I really want to be with him. There's a part of me that says to move on but then there's another part that just can't let go because I've known him for ten years.

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offtopic.gifwhat is the difference between a girl that exchanges sex for money in a relationship

and one that stands on the street corner and goes by the name whore?confused3




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Um....they both have BRAINS? smoking-devil




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"One of the heads of the beast seemed to have been fatally wounded, but the wound had healed. The whole earth was amazed and followed the beast".

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erm...I asked for the difference NOTsimilarities?





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yeah i know i was being facetious, but never mind. I think the girl needs to grow thats all.






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aaaah ok but note the "girl" is21 or even older, when will she learn?







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Post imported post - 24-07-04, 06:46 PM

HE WAS 48YEAR WHAT!

no wonder he treated you nice, probably could not believe a young pretty gal can like him.

First of all you should not blame yourself, you was 19 years old and he was emotionally abusive which has probably messed your head up.I mean I can go on and on, but all i have to say that you are not a chickenhead or whatever.

I am 18 years old and I avoid old men like a plague. If man cannot handle a women of his own age then clearly he has issues and if i was prime minister I would section him under the mental act 1987.

48 yrs old! Oh dear




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hmmm, I think they were both using each other actually

First of all you should not blame yourself, you was 19 years old and he was emotionally abusive which has probably messed your head up.I mean I can go on and on, but all i have to say that you are not a chickenhead or whatever.

she wasn't exactly miss innocent, she clearly states she went into the relationship for material resaons.

I am 18 years old and I avoid old men like a plague. If man cannot handle a women of his own age then clearly he has issues and if i was prime minister I would section him under the mental act 1987.

LOL but I agree

48 yrs old! Oh dear

I thinkthey deserve each other, NO SYMPHATHIES WHATSOEVER




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He is 50 now. That is like yourDad, why do you want have a relationship with such fellow, he must have had lots of women in his life. No matter what he says to you, trust me he will have someone else or be seeing another young girl. Why do you have to be asecond Class wife or a wifey material? What is wrong with young men?I cannot believe what i was reading. I cannot still understand what your criteria are in choosing a man. Do you just go for anybody? You need to think about that.




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Post imported post - 24-07-04, 07:14 PM

Ladies ladies

Arent you being a bit harsh to you poor sista who came seeking advice??

anyhow do your maths properly she is damn near 30!!

I was 19 when I met him

I've known him for ten years

So you arent discussing a child. Considering he must be in his mid 60s pushing 70 the age difference is disturbing and disconcerting but paedopillia doesnt come into it.


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1) One is done publicly, the other is done privately.

2) Even though one is about money, it is still a relationship( Weak One). The other one is not a relationship, but a service.

3) One usually involves the same man for months, weeks or days, the other one is just a night's Job.

4) One has achoice ie can decide to take money from a guy she likes, the other is having none of that. If you approach me , I am more than happy to go with you as long as you pay me.

5) One looks somehow Healthy at least, the other look like someone suffering from one form of disease.


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