To live together first or marry first?

Some may say this is for ' a trial period' butshould a relationshipbe regarded as a trial? If the relationship ends.. someone is being made homeless.



On the other hand, Marriage Just markings on a paper right? Claim half the house right?

Live together and if dem get pon yuh nerve u dont marry

If it works then the isle is for you?

Hmmm....... just wondering Which would you prefer and why?

SPARX

marriage - its an expression of a social and legal committment to one another.

...is this important/relevant? Ask the gays who are fighting tooth and nail for it.

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hapiness is that you on that picture? wow!

Some more resposes would be nice...........

I personally think you should live together first before marrying, then it won't come as a shock to find he snores/leaves toenail clippings in the bath/leaves clothes where he drops them etc etc.

I know some people take their marriage vows lightly, but they're important to me. As Happiness said, it's a form of commitment.

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P.S They say that married men live longer.

It looks like this topic of marriage keeps poping up everytime:P

I am not marrying anyone.......married men live longer, therefore it means i will have to put up with the idot's snoring and farting for more than 3 or 4 DECADES!.....Thats suicidal to me.......

And i am not living with anyone because i love my bed and messy bedroom all to myself toooo much to share it with any of these toe rags young men of today........i might reconsider my decisionif a rich midlle aged man with a 10 bedroom house asks me......he'll have enough rooms for me to run away from him!.............smoking-devil And he will die quicker to leave methe money so i can open hospitals in my country!.......See, i am not soo devious after all

@ Dimoke

Yep I think you are meeting the wrong men too. When you meet that dude you can't live without seeing, then we will see your marriage view change LOL

@NT.....LMAOOO

Oh jeeez, my comments has NOTHING to do with the men i meet.....in fact i meet quite lovely men, and i have very nice male friends....so i have no idea how you got that that idea! Lol, can a woman say or have a preference without having a label of "you are meeting the wrong"......confused2

Other than that......i ain't got much to say.......i am too smart to hate men and say it here......i believe thats for the psychiatrist chair!.......smoking-devil

Dimoke blkfingerwag, you are scaring this poor men... anyway back to the question at hand

Speaking from experience I say only move in with someoneif you’re still unsure of being in the relationship in the first place. I personally did live with someone for almost 7 years, and i decided thatbecause I wasn’t ready to make a commitment as big as a marriage yet. I was also only 17 years old.

I loved him then but I wanted to see if i still loved him when I was older and after spending a few years with him without the commitment of marriage.

Knowing I had a way out of the relationship soon as things went wrong was perfect for me for that time, which also made the relationship very fragile, and put pressure on both of us (more him) to always behave, and to not slip up.

Under that kind of pressure, you can’t totally be yourself which is why living together doesn’t really provide proof of your compatibility and perfect happiness together over a life time, all it really does is prove compatibility for a point in time when you both are behaving.

In my opinion most people who do get married without having lived together first usually go into it with the intention of making it last and are aware of the compromise it will take and the cost of divorce etc... so they create a lifestyle from scratch that fits the both of them (to some extent) most who are in itit for the long haul do anyway.

offtopic.gifMokie i am out now, going home first, then B street, i'll be done by 5:30 give me a ring when you on your way. Theothers will be around u know where so give them a ring and join them if you done before me.