AGE GAP IN RELATIONSHIPS - Page 2

Fredblack · (#26 (**permalink**))

@Sooofresh. Not saying young males are not immature. Simply I don't look at males with any what can I say ,but you know what I meanconfused3. Being a bloke and all

. But I think it goes both ways not sure the same causes though. Because I have cousins back home who are considered men and conduct themselves in that manner and are responsible, look after themsleves have their own humble places and very independent on all levels. Those studying will stay at home longer, but not like here.

But here we got men well into their 30's living in their mothers roofs and I have said this from dawn many sisters and mothers are their sons and black womens worse enemies because as long as it suits their immediate purpose and interest they will keep that male under their wing or roof rather than putting his arse on road where it belongs.

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Fredblack · (#27 (**permalink**))

@BP no doubt about it bruv and I have been saying this for the longest. Most of the owmen in my family hold age very well. Both man and woman actually but where I can see it is in a small number of women. If you compare them to their husbands you would laugh. Hence why some of them cuss their men and all sorts but ain't going Jack because they are less likely to pull what they want unlike their men.

Best years behind them but those men got many years ahead of them and why when their men go back home if they aint coming they make sure that trip can't run. It is a standing joke in the family. Some of us go home to do business by ourselves all the time. But they can't go know where because too many hot girl about and my man might go missing in action.

So all the mouth they have don't mean nish.

Vezz. · (#28 (**permalink**))

mansamusa wrote:

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BP wrote:

does that mean we stay looking good longer than females?

Dangerous question bro. But my experience bears this true. If I look at all the brothers I may buck up on that I knew from a youth..

And most of the sisters we knew and knocked around with..

There is no contest. How many woman you know can lie bare faced and say they are 25 when 35.

I dont know many.

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Trust me, I know I don't look my age. It can be a bind really, but it's genetic - you should see my Mum and Gran!

dimoke · (#29 (**permalink**))

mansamusa wrote:

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BP wrote:

does that mean we stay looking good longer than females?

Dangerous question bro. But my experience bears this true. If I look at all the brothers I may buck up on that I knew from a youth..

And most of the sisters we knew and knocked around with..

There is no contest. How many woman you know can lie bare faced and say they are 25 when 35.

I dont know many.

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Well it has been established that black people in general do not mature physicalyas quickly as other races......this apliesBOTH to men and women, so perhaps its good that you said fromYOUR experience the men that you know have fared better than the ladies.

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I think its up to the individuals taking proper care of theselves........not based on gender.

Fredblack · (#30 (**permalink**))

@Dimoke. Said"I think its up to the individuals taking proper care of theselves........not based on gender.

I would add to that. life style, work, capacity for stress etc and own family genetics etc.

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Miss Price · (#31 (**permalink**))

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is the responsibility of the 2 people of the action they take.

like if a 16 year old girl likes a 25 year old, then she knows the kind of issues that will come up in the relationship eg sex. if she's not ready for that then she shouldn't consider it. but if she stil goes ahead with it and then felt 'pressurised' to do it, and then is crying about it after, then she's just stupid.

i think it depends where the 2 people are in their life, and what they want from the relationship.

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age is nothing but a number

like if a 16 year old girl likes a 25 year old, then she knows the kind of issues that will come up in the relationship eg sex. if she's not ready for that then she shouldn't consider it. but if she stil goes ahead with it and then felt 'pressurised' to do it, and then is crying about it after, then she's just stupid.

i really dont think so love, u see unless you have been in that situation at that age its really easy for you to criticse(i really hate that), men see girls at that age as their toy which they can manipulate and try to mould, its really disgusting. i was once that young girl youwere talking about, yes i was around 16 (not stupid but naive) and who i was with was 10 years older then me. now at the time i thought it was in love i seriously did i thought that i was meant to be with this man and he was meant to be with me but all i was to him, a piece on the side from his wife,toabuse phiysically and mentally. took me a long time to get over it but there you go, its not about considering you dont know how at that age (i think anyways) sometimes its about direction and at that time i did'nt have any i really did'nt, i was all over the place which caused me to mess up and nearly ruined my life. so age gaps between16-17 yr old girlsand 26 + guys is not healthy for a young females mind. take it from me, am just glad the lord gave me an second chance to do right (the hard way) u know, by goin to uni while am still young and shit cause bowy ifi did'nt i would be dropin dem babies all over the place like wha. i have now found my direction.

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i say about 2-4 years max.

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darksidelingua · (#32 (**permalink**))

Wll im under 2 years older than my woman

but Ive got a friends whos 28 and her man is 37

now I have a slight problem with that

so my question is

what do you class as reasonable age gap?

I men its ok when we are all grown

but lets say a 19yr old seeing a 39yr old?

whats your opinion on age gap relationships

I think that if you are under 18 then only a 3 year age gap is acceptable then 18 to 30 perhaps a 10 year age gap then when you get over 30 I don't think it really matters anymore. I am 25 and I would think about dating anyone from the age of 22 to 30.

Having said that I did briefly see an 18 year old when I was 23/24. This was an exception s I would have thought that such a thing was totally perverse previously but this situation did make me more open towards the idea of age gap relationships, although I still realise most vboys under the my age are likely to be highly immature.

Fredblack · (#33 (**permalink**))

@Miss Price. Hear ya. But question. It would appear to me and this ain't not dissing etc that a 16/17 year old got no business going out with someone 10 years their senior. You might think you are mature but surely not. It is like in sports boxing or martial arts. Don't care how big you or tough or mature you think you are they will not allow you to fight with people 10 years your senior, because one is a teenager and the other phsycially a grown man.

So don't you think if you were say 26/27 with a man 10 years older your relationship could be fundamentally different?confused3.

But for me that man should be put in jail quite frankly.

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Madam Butterfly · (#34 (**permalink**))

My sis married a 24 year old in Dec and turned 32 in Jan. To me, that kind of age gap is uacceptable, but it arose from a misunderstanding when they first met. He thought she was younger than what she was (good genes run in my family!!) and he lied and said he was older than he was. So they thought they were around the same age. By the time the truth was out, they were already in a relationship, then she got pregnant. Age became irrelevant, tho most of the problems they have come from, in my opinion, his lack of maturity and my sisters controlling nature. My dad was ten years older than my mother, which i always thought was too old. I am the youngest of 3 and my dad was 40 when i was born. My other sister was in a relationship with someone 8 years older than her. They met when she was 18 and were together for 13 years. So i have quite a range in my family. Me personally would not go out with someone more than 2 years younger or five years older. So since i am 26 going on 27 i guess that means anywhere from 24 to 32, though i feel like 32 is still a lil old for juvenile ol' me!!

caster_troy_uk · (#35 (**permalink**))

i dont know much about age gap but i'll say

10 years gap on da man being older dan da woman

and 5 year age gap on da woman being older than da man dast if da man iz under 25 coz women become mature earlier than man

if da man is older dan 25 den i'll say

8 years

and for da children and youths 3 years

Sit al-Banal · (#36 (**permalink**))

To; the Guy's

Age gap!!!!! Please.

Looks, Style, Income, Intelligence, Performance, Age.

Fella's, WHICH "must have" is on your mind as you leave your front door?

However (stay on topic). As long as she is legal it doesn't matter what your age is, give em half a chance and they will do your head in. So theless emotional damage (ex's) the better.

Therefor guy's enjoy, girls grow-up. There problem solved!! me ghan.blkpain

Vezz. · (#37 (**permalink**))

Madam Butterfly wrote:

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My sis married a 24 year old in Dec and turned 32 in Jan. To me, that kind of age gap is uacceptable, but it arose from a misunderstanding when they first met. He thought she was younger than what she was (good genes run in my family!!) and he lied and said he was older than he was. So they thought they were around the same age. By the time the truth was out, they were already in a relationship, then she got pregnant. Age became irrelevant, tho most of the problems they have come from, in my opinion, his lack of maturity and my sisters controlling nature. My dad was ten years older than my mother, which i always thought was too old. I am the youngest of 3 and my dad was 40 when i was born. My other sister was in a relationship with someone 8 years older than her. They met when she was 18 and were together for 13 years. So i have quite a range in my family. Me personally would not go out with someone more than 2 years younger or five years older. So since i am 26 going on 27 i guess that means anywhere from 24 to 32, though i feel like 32 is still a lil old for juvenile ol' me!!

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Your sister's life sounds exactly like what happened to me with my son's father! He too lied about his age,but I had to get him out of my life because he was too immature. Marry him??? LOL. Please wish her luck...

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I think the older you get the less important age becomes.