I don't know if this sad, but I really need friends.

At the moment, I'm going through a difficult time and a haven't had anyone here for me. It's made me realise certain things about people, this is the time when you're supposed to have friends around you.... but I aint even seen my so-called best friend in weeks.

Besides that all my friends are just dropping like flies; words can't even describe how I'm feeling. There's nobody, what do I do.

I'm a 23 year old female, interested in media and post-production. I enjoy reading all kinds of stuff, I don't have any particular hobbies but I do enjoy watching TV and having debates. I don't know what more to say about myself, not that I aint got much of a personality but it's hard to describe one's personality in a few lines or even a paragraph.

However, I do like a have a laugh and do not take myself seriously - I can laugh at myself and I do have psycho tendancies like Monica from Friends.

I am hoping that I can meet some friends on here. So if you're willing send me a message.

Thanks

Be careful baby girl,we all need friends....but not too many.

You can't trust people to have your best interest in mind because sometimes they just want to use you or get something from you.

So watch out and don't be so anxious to make friends that you let your guard down.

I've only had about 10 or 12 real friends in my life time who stuck with me thick & thin regardless of what I did or had, most of the rest were just opportunists.

I don't mean to crowd you thread but.....


Also you'll find that the opposite sex makes the best friends. Beause there's little if any jealousy or competition between you and you can relax and learn a lot from eachother getting different perspectives on life.

Find yourself an alright STRAIGHT fellow and make sure there is little sexual attraction between you 2 and get toknow eachother.

I don't have many friends cos I know that the smaller amount of friends you have, the closer they are.

There was no jealousy in my friendship and I will not say that anything bad has happened, it's just that at the time I thought my friends would be there, they aint. There's just lots of little things that is amiking me feel alone.

And having a boy as your best friend aint the best option, cos as soon as he finds a girl - you become history. I've experienced it and it aint nice.

Adeola - Do you go out at all? Because if you do want friends - then that is ususally the way to go about getting them.

But if you are just complaining about your existing friends, then my suggestion is to tell them how you feel - maybe they don't know they have 'let you down', (I say this because obviously we do not know what the situation is),and perhaps now is thetime to let them know.

DSP

Omar stop trying to holla on the sly.

Man ain't nobody trying to get up on the girl.

When I was giving Areola...I mean Adeola..... advice, I wasn't even thinking about sex.





Adeola


And having a boy as your best friend aint the best option, cos as soon as he finds a girl - you become history. I've experienced it and it aint nice.

It depend on why he was with you in the first place.

Ofcourse if he was just looking for a woman and you asked him to settle for friendship, he's gonna leave you as soon as he finds what he's looking for.

But if you 2 had a clear understanding that the relationship would be strictly platonic and you both had things of interest in common like religion, hobbies, or politics, then you should be able to have a lasting relationship with any man whether he had a girlfriend or not.
Infact, it's best to be friends with a man who already has a woman...that wayhe's less likely to press up on you.


But I'll digress and let you do what you wanna do.

*coughs .. heyy !

Hi Adeola

I agree with Omaar i have equal number of male and female friends. Recently one of them got married and i did for a while think our friendship would definitely change since especially his wife then girlfriend for some reason didn't take to mefrom day dot. But you know nothing has changed,she's learnt to respect and to bepleasant if she decides to tag along to our get togethers,but mostly she chooses to keepaway, which is fine.I have a feeling my friend probably hada word.

Anyway like Omaar said choose your male friends carefully, definitely cannot find them sexually attractive in anyway shape or form... if you for one second think hmmm maybe i could possibly go there... that's the friendship done. But if you do find male friends who are like minded and definite no sexual tension then it could be the best friendship you can ever have.

Slightly off topic... not that i been on topic anyway...

I remembera while backyou talking about some predicament you had to deal with, just wanted to know ifyou managed to sort it? andifit's in some way contributing to how you feeling now?

I just wanted to say that all of u gave excellent advice to the young lady, especially Omaar, I'm gonna have to reevaluate my opinion of u.

G My'hogany

I just wanted to say that all of u gave excellent advice to the young lady, especially Omaar, I'm gonna have to reevaluate my opinion of u.

Well daaaaangy girl, what did you think of me before?

Thought I was some sort of heartless savage beast?

I can be kind, gentle, sweet.....yeah...all that.

Only when I want to.

Adeola, You should be posting this on the under 25's forum.

Making friends in London is tough, its hard tofind your kind of person, if you get what i mean. I think you have togo theunorthodox way.

Put an ad in a paper/ mag (the kind you read) stating clearly the kind of person you'd like to meet,also it might help toadd that they must be interested in post production - this gives you something to talk about when you meet them, also its your way out if they don't do it for you.Like make an excuse of having found someone to work on a project with you or something like that.

Judging on how the meeting goes you can plan to meet again- you could end up with a posse of3 or 4like minded girls/ or guys, and you could all meet... and you take it from there.

blkwriterI must add to what everyone is saying; don't trust too readily. Meet in a public place (always) and don't take anybody home until you can say you know them, and that could be a while.