Private Messages

Omaar · (#1 (**permalink**))

Many of you.....Moderators as well as Members..... have contacted me by Private Message for a number or reasons whether to alert me to something or ask me a question.

One thing you all probably have noticed is that I'm kind of shy on the PM system.

I don't mean to be rude, I just feel funny talking privately and for some reason dread responding.

Yes.....

That same Omaar who can drop a 4 or 5 paragraphs of bold opinionated posts, will be at a lost for words when having to go one on one with someone by PMs after 3 or 4 interactions.

Am I the only one like this?

What could be my problem.....some type of phobia?

*PS In no way am I suggesting that no one PM me, I'm just explaining to you all why I act the way I do so you wouldn't think I was rude.

Pele · (#2 (**permalink**))

Omaar That's weird!!!!!! Sticks & Stones will break your bones but words wont ever hurt you:P.

emra9 · (#3 (**permalink**))

maybe you're afraid of intimacy...of being controlled and losing yourself. People fear intimacy/getting too personal, because they don't know how to handle situations of being rejected or controlled.

Omaar · (#4 (**permalink**))

Bele

Omaar That's weird!!!!!! Sticks & Stones will break your bones but words wont ever hurt you

It doesn't feel harmful, just funny and weird.

Emra

maybe you're afraid of intimacy...of being controlled and losing yourself. People fear intimacy/getting too personal, because they don't know how to handle situations of being rejected or controlled

Yes and no....

I have no problems with being intimate or close with people I know; maybe it's because of my inherent suspicions of people I run into on the internet.

I'm never too sure the person I'm talking to is actually who they claim to be and it stays in the back of my mind.

I think one of the biggest problems is my words going to waste.

If someone asks me for advice through a PM and I shoot it back to them privately, only they know whether or not I'm right and my idea works.....so I get little credit or glory.

Mafdet · (#5 (**permalink**))

Omaar wrote:

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It doesn't feel harmful, just funny and weird.

I have no problems with being intimate or close with people I know; maybe it's because of my inherent suspicions of people I run into on the internet.

@Omaar

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I know how you feel especially when someone you have never chated to before sends you a pm and ask you all sorts of questions it does make you suspicious. BTW maybe I should feel priviledged because you have NEVER come across as shy to me in your pm messages.blkssh

Omaar · (#6 (**permalink**))

Maf

Maybe because I've known you a little longer and feel a bit more at ease talking to you.

Maat · (#7 (**permalink**))

Omaar wrote:

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Many of you.....Moderators as well as Members..... have contacted me by Private Message for a number or reasons whether to alert me to something or ask me a question.

One thing you all probably have noticed is that I'm kind of shy on the PM system.

I don't mean to be rude, I just feel funny talking privately and for some reason dread responding.

Yes.....

That same Omaar who can drop a 4 or 5 paragraphs of bold opinionated posts, will be at a lost for words when having to go one on one with someone by PMs after 3 or 4 interactions.

Am I the only one like this?

What could be my problem.....some type of phobia?

*PS In no way am I suggesting that no one PM me, I'm just explaining to you all why I act the way I do so you wouldn't think I was rude.
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Hey Omaar,

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I'm probably another stranger to you but hey don't be shy

. I don't think you have a problem. Sounds like you just have your guard up which isn't a bad thing at all.

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Here at the village there is an element of trust you have. I know there have been some devils coming here trying to mess things up (as they do)but people have to get used to each other somehow and you know what...one rule I always use is not to tell someone anything I have no problem defending if they decide to turn into the disagreeable and throw it back in my face and if they choose not to keep it private. Let's be real, it happensconfused3.

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You talk as best you feel comfortable. niceone.gif

Mafdet · (#8 (**permalink**))

oops sorry Omaar I didn't realised you replied to me I was still laying on the floor after fainting when I read the part about you being shy talking via the pm.....Omaar shy well I never thought I would say that in the same sentence till now.

DSP · (#9 (**permalink**))

Well played Omar, well played niceone.gif