The classic questions

Why do men cheat?

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Do women really cheat as much or they just better at hiding it?

Brother Le_Moor,

The cheating ting is a cheating ting. Not a man or a woman ting. Let's get that clear. People will cheat if they are going to. Unless they ever overstand why THEY cheat they may well continue to hurt themselves and those around them.

The only difference I see is that society seems to encourage men to step to the challenge while women should not! Hence a man will take pride and a woman will hide. While someare pleased withtheir sexual accomplishments it does make me wonder why anyone would consider promiscuity something to be proud ofconfused3.

Maat wrote:

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If a guy gets offerred it on a plate hes not going to say no. Maybe that has something to do with our genetics, as in testosterone was created so man can hunt and build commnuities.

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Women on the other hand can and do say no to tempetation, unless they've been hurt or their mans constantly abused/neglected them.

Black_power wrote:

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why as a man are you asking why men cheat??... surly you must know the answers...

@Le Moore. Man I am not chasing you around the village just that you are posting stuff that meets my mood right now. Have to agree and disagree with you. I think you are right men cheat often because their urges or wants are great and operate in different ways than women who from my experience once she is purring is happy like Larry.

However, man is not driven by hormones or his balls alone and that is why we created civilisations and all the things which governed it. Men also feel the need to kill on occassions and they don't because higher and more important things are at stake. So a man can pander to higher or lower things, act judiciously or wrecklessly and depending on the man will shape what he will do.

I do not agree and think it quite insulting to me to argue that men will naturally take what is put on a plate for them, because I know plenty men of all social backgrounds who have not or will think twice. Talking to a brother whose ex wife or an other whose child's mother is pining like a child for them and going on with all things, sexing themselves up when they come around but they ain't interested because they know better. For one they have children with these women and it is in their childrens interest they stay physically clear from these women even though they are using the kids to entrap these men eg sending Christmas kisses for daddy or picking out presents when they wouldn't shit on them previously.

I think there are only a very very small number of grounds where a man can legitimately have sexual relations with a woman outside of the one he is committed to. I also think those conditions apply to women and fundamental to that is whether or not one party is not meeting the reasonble expectations which they have a right to have from their partner.

That can come about by many things eg tiredness, childbirth, illness or whatever. I also assume that both parties work sincerely to some meaningful adjustment or efforts to improve that situation. Now knowing human beings it may well be one is quite happy and comfortable where they are while the other is not, but happy every where else. Under that circumstance intelligent and mature people must sit down and work to whatever solution that meets their situation. This is why in almost every culture and religion I know the failure to sexually satisfy a spouse is automatic divorce material.

But I think casual cheating is very very dangerous and speaks volumes about the character of the person in question. First, it involves lying consitently which is like acid on any serious relationship and could be even worse than the cheating itself and can lead in a serious loss of confidence one has in the other and that is down hill from there. It can lead to a loss of respect and serious dramas, and all kinds of sh*t and worse and I have seen this first-hand women searching through man's belongings, following them about and seriouos public embarrassment and his friends; especially for the man because women so motivated once in that zone don't give a f**k how it is seen.

Then the thing that really gets me about certain weak- heart brothers is they not only lie to their wives or women they lie on them, using them as excuses why they want to taste the goods of another woman. That to me is the lowest. If you want to taste fresh fruit be a man about it don't come with long story about what you woman ain't given you or she don't understand you and big story. Absolutely pathetic especially when he ain't going anywhere and just using his woman as an excuse.

Also I think this is me it is better for 4 women to want you knowing they can't have you than simply jump into bed with them because it is there. Because whatever you get may be little for what you lose and in their eyes in particular. So on a cost-benefit analysis usually to me it just ain't worth it and I am thinking purely from a male self interest not anybody else. NOthng worse in this life than a woman thinking you are easy because she can shake her stuff and you forget what time of day it is.

Pathetic and weak really.

FB

On a lighter note...

Men cheat because society does not allow them to be polygamous anymore.

Women cheat because society does not allow them to freely seek the best mate.

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Le Moor, I was having a similar debate with my friends over the weekend andwhat I would like to know is actually this:

Would you feel bad as the concubine(male or female) if the person you were cheating with was dating someone that wasn't of the same race.

To clarify if a black girl/man was cheating on her/his white boyfriend/girlfriend with you, would you feel bad?

LMAO!!!!!

you're a joker.

Anyway I was hypotesising that if I were to be cheated on by my boyfriend I would feel revolted if I found out that he did it with a white chick! At the same time if I were ever tobe a"mistress"(which I just don't do), I think I wouldn't feel as though what i was doing was as wrong if the guy I was cheating with had a white girlfriend, it would be more reclaimation work ;-)

seriously though I think people(women and men)cheat because they feel they can get away with it in terms of, they know their partner would have it or theyfeel they have "nothing" tolose

@ Double N

Whats always gets me is when those people who cheat then go tell their partners cos they cant live with the guilt. They then end up splitting up and having bitter divorce settlements etc. confused3

Although i dont condone cheating, surely what somone doesnt know cant hurt them, you then have a chance to redeem your