Something aint right in BNV - Page 2

COLTRANE · (#26 (**permalink**))

what about those DORMANT memebrs?

Kunjufu · (#27 (**permalink**))

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I take the points of Rastawoman and DoubleN but I mean people are regularly insulted for expressing their opinion. Being called stupid, people saying that people are idiots and don't know what they're talking about, being called coconuts, haters etc etc that's all insulting and is what I call insults. I see that stuff does go on and I thought it was just part and parcel of posting on a forum, never even knew it was not allowed.

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I don't know the diff between what's necessary or unecessary though so I'm not sure how the mod team decide when it is necessary or not. To me an insult is just an insult - to the person giving it it will of course be necessary, to the person on the receiveing end it'll be unnecessary. How do you distinguish between the two? Is it just the case that if the mod team find it offensive to them they clean up and then deal with the poster? What if you think it wasn't that bad but the person who was insulted thinks it was? I think it must be hard for you guys.

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Bubz..this isn't complicated at all...just refer any concerns to the team,....we will then take a view ok...

bubz · (#28 (**permalink**))

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but Welcome bubz as I see you are new... care to tell us a little about yourself?

I'm not new,I was a visitor for ages before I registered. What do you wish to know?

Mezmerized · (#29 (**permalink**))

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well...there is more to life than just being waaaay too serious in this place

look at Mez now..this year she has turned to be like this chick below

damn sista

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And whats wrong with being her??I did not come here to entertain your boring lifestyle......i told to stop fantasising about me cause i am way tooyoungfor you....toohot and uncontrolable by the likes of meany moany you...bighairlol

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She rocks...niceone.gif

Kunjufu · (#30 (**permalink**))

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And whats wrong with being her??I did not come here to entertain your boring lifestyle......i told to stop fantasising about me cause i am way tooyoungfor you....toohot and uncontrolable by the likes of meany moany you...bighairlol

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She rocks...niceone.gif

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Mez..that was stone cold...lmao...

Rastawoman · (#31 (**permalink**))

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*pops pimp hat on*

well for a starters you age..location and vital statsistics..

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I'm jealous, you never ask me that when I joined

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bighairlol

Rastawoman · (#32 (**permalink**))

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*put back on pimphat*

sorry there normally you rastas dont really respond to my kind of lingo...

but go ahead no need to be shy... run em past me..

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Just coz I rasta don't mean I don't have a sense of humour, but here goes...

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Nah to shy, sorry

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Abissinia · (#33 (**permalink**))

Oh woe is me blah blah blah, sorry but this is so tired... gzzz

If you have an opinion youstate it, if anyone challenges it then youdefend it simple as.

I admit I have called some people some names mostly because they deserved it….And trust me I don’t relish telling someone they are retarded, stupid or call them coconuts. Besides what do you do when you are out in the real world where you find the real meanies, and backstabbing morons? Who have no regards for your feelings or well beings and if it means stepping all over you emotionally or physically to get anywhere they will do it.

Come on ladies what goes on BN is Childs play, you cannot let anyone stop you from stating your opinion, so what if they call you stupid? Does it make it any true? Shshsh I been called all sorts before, runfromyourwives favourite past time activity used to be coming up with different names for Mez, Sooofresh and myself… lol I think I been called Alopecia, Hag nasty, Lesbian and the rest…

You need to equip your selves with some sharp tongue, sharper brain and build some shields around you to deflect any nonsense they’ll try to dash at you, so long as you be you and you do you, then you have nothing to fear.

yogi · (#34 (**permalink**))

Rastawoman wrote:

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I don't know about old school BNV, i'm quite new to here, but from the threads I've seen, some peeps will jump on you if your opinion is differentto theres, so it makes peeps wary to give an opinion. Respect for other peeps views will encourage others to get involved.

Ras

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I must say i noticed this as well. More than one person would attack someone whose opinion differs from thier own. It puts me off positng to be honest. I can't deal with the drama it creates.

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And there is definitely a cliqueness associated with this forum. I know some people have known each other a long time but they have to remember that this can aslo alienate newcomers.

Le Moor · (#35 (**permalink**))

I agree with DM the site has generally been calmer since the re-launch.

Coltranes comment about boring could hold some truth as well.

Im wondering whether the increase in the number of Forums (sections ) has detracted from the quality amongst debates. I would imagethat somewhere there has to be a point where the balance turns on itself.

Blackthought · (#36 (**permalink**))

I really think its getting better, since the re-launch... I mean the 3 months may havelaunch may also have something to do with it...

Come on K... speak to the admin ppl, becuase I thought all members where going to recieve a email of the re-launch, I didn't get one?? did anybody else...confused3

But I do reason with some members, becuase sometimes I will just read the thread, see some silly comments, and I think nah.. it's justnot worth getting into it, unless it could have a direct link to me per se.... but then isn't that in the real world when pps are chatting about things you can relate to.. either you leave area, join in or just watch and listen, you might pick up something ....

Just my 5 Naira on it

Backatya · (#37 (**permalink**))

yogi wrote:

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Rastawoman wrote:

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I don't know about old school BNV, i'm quite new to here, but from the threads I've seen, some peeps will jump on you if your opinion is differentto theres, so it makes peeps wary to give an opinion. Respect for other peeps views will encourage others to get involved.

Ras

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I must say i noticed this as well. More than one person would attack someone whose opinion differs from thier own. It puts me off positng to be honest. I can't deal with the drama it creates.

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What about in real life? In your day-to-day dealings with people do you holdback giving your opinion (representing yourself) because you can't handle the drama of opposition? That would be very sad because it would leave you prey to being railroaded and bullied by anyone who was out to get their own way.

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If anything the anonymity of forums like this should be the ideal place to build up your confidence and take on the 'big mouths'. Much easier than in a face to face confrontation like at work.