Engaged For Life - Page 3

Miss Nellia · (#51 (**permalink**))

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Kunjufu wrote:

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is that gross or net...?

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LOL dunno it's what some woman told me. Sounded pretty serious too, like it was a rule written down somewhere or something!

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So you're looking at 1500 minimum to get a ring, and you know the ceremony is not going to be cheaper than 5000 with the way we like to have everybody there. Honeymoon (if you're doing that) would be another 1000 minimum so you're looking at BARE BROKEPOCKET CHEAPASS minimum of about 7500 to get married. You wonder why some dudes like to prolong the engagement? LOL!!

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Add to that putting down the deposit on the marital home and you're seriously talking about hurting yourself.

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Oh for the days when I would be able to satisfy somebodys father with a few cows...

@DM
Look a wedding can cost as little as Â£70 up to Â£30,000 for a layman's wedding, for get the celebs and rich folk. It only costs Â£70 to go to a registry office and get married, or if you want a little more than that then it is up to you. I would rather head off to the caribbean and get married on the beach somewhere, nice and simple, I'm not into a big lickdown wedding with 100s of family member s you've never heard of.

Then when we return from getting married on the beach, we could either have a nice dinner party, or something like that for the very close friend and fam. My friend is STILL trying to clear off the credit cards from her fairy tale wedding. Waste of money, I would rather we invest that money in property or something. (No compromise on the rock though

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Miss Nellia · (#52 (**permalink**))

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Â£500. For an engagementeven that's a bit pricey. If life was fair thenÂ£150 should do the trick.. After all its the spirit of the gift isnt it..?

You had better be joking.

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BB..why? Maybe he has a point...

@Kunjufu

There is no point here, Â£150 for an engagement ring is just ole plain CHEAP......damn. :P Please at least stretch to Â£500 ah beg.

Soulstarr · (#53 (**permalink**))

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The ring symbolises the dowry or bride price. You're buying her from her daddy. By buying a cheap ring you're saying..... well you get the idea! That's why they want expensive rings. Ya dig?

Very True

@ Kunjufu

I don't even make much but ain't no ring on earth gonna cost me two months wages. You think I'm gonna work hard for two months to buy a stone? A frigging pebble? HEEEEEEEEEEEEELL NO!

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I personally wouldn't expect THAT much money for my rock. People have to be practical about these things. No point in shelling out what could pass for a deposit on a house for a ring when you can't afford to pay your bills for a month or two

Mokele Mbembe · (#54 (**permalink**))

Miss Nelia

It's not even upto you or me. You getting married ain't just about you as you know. It's bigger than that. I'm tight with my family and most people I know are. I expect my wife would be too. I can't envisage a marriage without certain people there, that goes for friends too. I don't mean uncle so and so I never see but those people who are always there. When I get married people are flying in from all over earth and I wouldn't even say anything. My mother would do all that **inward groan** Registry office don't run. The family will never forgive. The reception costs money too. Food isn't a problem because I have a million and one aunts and cousins who will buss a gut trying to outdo each other without me saying a thing LOL but drinks, venue, DJ, decorations ain't cheap. The dress is big money too. You're looking at least 5000 here and I'm considered stingy!!

Adding a ring on top of that is a long ting!

Kunjufu · (#55 (**permalink**))

Miss Nellia wrote:

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@Kunjufu

There is no point here, Â£150 for an engagement ring is just ole plain CHEAP......damn. :P Please at least stretch to Â£500 ah beg.

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Ok I want to be argumentative for a mement...Â£150 for a man on minmum wages is a LOT of money..Â£500 is a fortune... would it be cheap if i were that man if i bought a ring for Â£150?

Kibibi · (#56 (**permalink**))

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LOL@K. And what point would that be-the one DM just made? :P

Mokele Mbembe · (#57 (**permalink**))

If you're on minimum wage and you work lets say 45 hours a week you earn 984.75 a month gross. You should be able to swing more than 150 on a ring LOL One presumes you would have been saving for a good few months, after you decided to yourself you're going to propose no?

Kunjufu · (#58 (**permalink**))

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If you're on minimum wage and you work lets say 45 hours a week you earn 984.75 a month gross. You should be able to swing more than 150 on a ring LOL One presumes you would have been saving for a good few months, after you decided to yourself you're going to propose no?

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Nah sah...984.75 a month, divided by travel expenses, Rent and living expenses...DM how is that possible...in la la land...Â£150 is a lot of dosh if you are earning THAT!!!

Miss Nellia · (#59 (**permalink**))

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Miss Nelia

It's not even upto you or me. You getting married ain't just about you as you know. It's bigger than that. I'm tight with my family and most people I know are. I expect my wife would be too. I can't envisage a marriage without certain people there, that goes for friends too. I don't mean uncle so and so I never see but those people who are always there. When I get married people are flying in from all over earth and I wouldn't even say anything. My mother would do all that **inward groan** Registry office don't run. The family will never forgive. The reception costs money too. Food isn't a problem because I have a million and one aunts and cousins who will buss a gut trying to outdo each other without me saying a thing LOL but drinks, venue, DJ, decorations ain't cheap. The dress is big money too. You're looking at least 5000 here and I'm considered stingy!!

Adding a ring on top of that is a long ting!

bighairlol
@So you are saying that you're making the choice to have a huge wedding, well then big weddings costs. Also remember that it's traditionally the wife's family that pays for the wedding. Although I don't know anyone where this was the case. You sound as though you would end up having a big ass nightmare wedding. The type I dread. No doubt you would leave Mrs DM to-be do all of the work.

As for my family they would just have to wait still I return from the beach, I don't like stress and drama, also puts a strain on the relationship sometimes.

different strokes for different folks I guess!!!!

Mokele Mbembe · (#60 (**permalink**))

Miss Nellia wrote:

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Miss Nelia

It's not even upto you or me. You getting married ain't just about you as you know. It's bigger than that. I'm tight with my family and most people I know are. I expect my wife would be too. I can't envisage a marriage without certain people there, that goes for friends too. I don't mean uncle so and so I never see but those people who are always there. When I get married people are flying in from all over earth and I wouldn't even say anything. My mother would do all that **inward groan** Registry office don't run. The family will never forgive. The reception costs money too. Food isn't a problem because I have a million and one aunts and cousins who will buss a gut trying to outdo each other without me saying a thing LOL but drinks, venue, DJ, decorations ain't cheap. The dress is big money too. You're looking at least 5000 here and I'm considered stingy!!

Adding a ring on top of that is a long ting!

bighairlol
@So you are saying that you're making the choice to have a huge wedding, well then big weddings costs. Also remember that it's traditionally the wife's family that pays for the wedding. Although I don't know anyone where this was the case. Me neither, only in movies that happens! You sound as though you would end up having a big ass nightmare wedding. Not by choice but I just couldn't omit anybody. Everybody invited me to their weddings! It would be the ultimate snub and height of rudeness. How can I leave people out of the most important day? Besides I'm not talking swans and elephants! Just a big hall with food and drink really. The dress as I said is the main cost and though you might not be the type to go all out most chicks I know are. Especially on THAT. The type I dread. Me too! No doubt you would leave Mrs DM to-be do all of the work. Of course! The day is for and about her no? Besides, thats her job. Women secretly enjoy all that organsing and running tings anyway.

Maat · (#61 (**permalink**))

@Sisters: I'm hearing you on the ring bit and putting a high value on it but there's truth in thinking more practically. When you look at how much you will be spending after the ring is bought the Â£5,000 mark doesn't sound so crazy and that's just for the wedding...then when that's over the stress off making back that money could create the first set of problems. It's possible to have the nice rings but spending less. Even with planning anything could happen and let's face it most people these days are brass anyway....

@Incognito: I'm all for the recyclying but to an extent LOL

@Kunjufu: If a brother can only afford Â£150 I think it's a good thing particularly if he is on the minimum wage. He's trying bless if he's lucky she will appreciate it same way.