maybe it's just me or the building that i work in! but has anyone noticed that when you are the first person in the lift people expect you press the button for their floor for them! i find it quite rude simply because if you come in YOU press it your goddamn self! :P

once it was just me and this middle-aged white women and i had got in first and pressed my floor, but as soon as she stepped in she 'said 8 please' so i pretended i didnt hear her and i got out at my stop. then she realised i didnt press it and made some comment about it not stopping.

is it unreasonable for me to think this way? i always press the button for myfloor i dont understand how it can be so difficult for other people to do it for themself! is this one of theunwritten rules about being in a lift?!

just had to get that off my chest as it really pisses me off! hhead

I actually find it rude when the person nearest the buttons doesn't ask what floor. You are the closest person to it and it doesn't cost you anything.

Gosh what happened to good old fashioned manners confused3

Like i said, if someone ASKS for a floor, i will happily press it. However, i am not going to keep asking people which floor esp. if they are able to reach the panel themselves. If i am blocking the panel, then fair enough. Otherwise, i am not going to stand there asking folks which floor they want!!

Nuttin to do with holding doors. I always hold doors open. What bothers me is when folks don't say thank you, or a whole stream of people come through, as though you are some kind of doorstop!

well i dont believe im expected to do that for anyone. i dont think it has anything to do with manners, please and thank you are manners! not pressing the button for some lazy arse who cant be bothered to do it themself!i find it rather lazy not to press the button yourself!

i think it is an english mentality to be frank.

@ blackthought

obviously if the lift is packed then fair enough.

@ madam butterfly

well that's exactly what happens isnt it? everyone expects you to do it after a while. and just because someone might be first in the lift doesnt necessarily mean they will be in way of the buttons.

@ blackpower

the lift will move as long as one person has pressed their floor so if you dont press it not my problem is it?

idont believe there is a right or wrong answer to that particular situation i think it is down to the individual. there are different situations that call for manners but i dont think that is necessarily one of them. like various issues in society we are just expected to conform and do what everyone else is doing and not challenge why.

shopaholik wrote: idont believe there is a right or wrong answer to that particular situation i think it is down to the individual. there are different situations that call for manners but i dont think that is necessarily one of them. like various issues in society we are just expected to conform and do what everyone else is doing and not challenge why.

I personally think you're looking too deep into this.

I came home once time a lil late at night and there was a weird looking woman just standing by the lift. So I went and stood and waited too. Nothing happened. She looked at me and said "ain't you gonna press it then?" I was so baffled!! I presumed since she was already there and staring at the lift that she had called it. Anyway I pressed the lift and it came. She got in first and stood at the back. I stood near the buttons and pressed my floor (top floor) and asked "what floor?"she looked all suspiscious and asked ME "what floor are YOU going?" I proper stared at her... a lil shook now because crazy people worry me and I didn't want to turn my back on this woman. Anyway the lift goes all the way to my floor (the top) and I get out. She doesn't... I was SOOOOOOO baffled that day!

If she did I would have walked past my door because I don't want funnies knowing where I sleep!

MB

There was a slightly more sinister air to the whole encounter. Not like she was playing a joke... but like she escaped from somewhere and men in white coats were conducting a frantic search if you get me.