How the **** is this fair?????? - Page 3

Backatya · (#51 (**permalink**))

Miss Nellia wrote:

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DSP wrote:

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Don't get married

What is it with you men when you hear the words "divorce settlement" you use it to re-enforce a 'bachelorhood' way of life, what about FAMILY.

Why shouldn't people get married, if people married each other for the right reasons in the first place then we would have allot less of things like this.

If two people have worked hard at a marriage and it ends then for the sake of the children it should be worked out amicablyâ€¦â€¦â€¦but if one partner marries another who already has millions and they come in with their five cents then unless there are kids involved I don't see how that person expects to leave with millions they had no part in acquiring.

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@ Miss Nellia

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You said it all righttheresis...

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But for true, these kind of rulings are pure ****ries. They do work in the interest ofmarriage or family and only help to drive a wedge between theunion of man and woman in the long run. How can that be good for anybody (men or women)?

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It seems that the message these morons whohave the power todetermine what is and is not to be in society have an agenda that is not about buildingunions but about making sure people enter relationships with fear, suspicion and apprehension evenbefore the damn thing has got going.

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The message to us guys seem to be:

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If she shows you this

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And you start feeling this

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Beware for she might be thinking this

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Man this stuff is pure nonsensical.

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Respect

Mezmerized · (#52 (**permalink**))

LOL...Majority of these women are given this setlements because they actually have PROVEN to the courts that they CONTRIBUTED(in whatever way)to the success of their husbands......whichever way they contributed is NOT the question here. And why do some of you here give a toss? Most of these men are capitalists loonies who treats people, including their own women like pieces of property.

If i married any of em, me expect half plus a butler. Independece has nothing to do with it, because for me to quit my career for anybody, they better be ****ing paying me ten times what i'd getting if i was working....because i am worth it!

Soulstarr · (#53 (**permalink**))

Mezmerized wrote:

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If i married any of em, me expect half plus a butler. Independece has nothing to do with it, because for me to quit my career for anybody, they better be f**king paying me ten times what i'd getting if i was working....because i am worth it!

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But this is my point. ah who tell yu fi give up yu career and security?? Miss Nelia is 100% on point because if the tables were turned, there is no WAY in HELL I'd wanna part with one rahtid penny to give to someone who bought nothing but benefit money into my life. Pure foolishness.

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offtopic.gifHey sis

Prince Hakeem · (#54 (**permalink**))

LOL....

TheDogon · (#55 (**permalink**))

I guess some of the gentlemen here have been through a divorce or know of someone who has. Well, let me just say I have been through a divorce. My ex even found a way to get me fired from my job while taking 1/3 of my earnings.

But it was my fault. Had I waited until it was the right time to get married, I would have seen that she was even more lost than I was.

But when you are young, you tend to make things more dramatic than they really are. I rushed into marriage and I had to pay a price later. Marriage can truly be a beautiful thing. But you have to marry for the right reasons.

Mezmerized · (#56 (**permalink**))

Soulstarr wrote:

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Mezmerized wrote:

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If i married any of em, me expect half plus a butler. Independece has nothing to do with it, because for me to quit my career for anybody, they better be f**king paying me ten times what i'd getting if i was working....because i am worth it!

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But this is my point. ah who tell yu fi give up yu career and security?? Miss Nelia is 100% on point because if the tables were turned, there is no WAY in HELL I'd wanna part with one rahtid penny to give to someone who bought nothing but benefit money into my life. Pure foolishness.

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I am basing my argument on these particular cases. According to the extended news that i have read on this particular cases, the men ASKED the women to quit their careers so they could care for thefamily FULL TIME and help bring about a support system where the man can be free to work as hard as he wished. I don't doubt this is notthe case because when i worked as a nanny, MAJORITY of these wealthy couples did live their lives that way. One man wouldn't even let his wife volunteer because he neeeded her most weekends for corporate dinners.

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We are not talking about poor old Mr 25k here, we are talking about filthy rich men who from what i have witnessed, do not like their women to do much......they like them looking all supportive and fit and sexy for their corporate plush circles.

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offtopic.gifHey sis

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Hey babes....hope u is well and all

Kunjufu · (#57 (**permalink**))

Abissinia wrote:

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@K the man married her in the year 2000, he knew what he was doing, and also he was the one who broke up the marriage by cheating on her. He is the one who broke of his bows, do you think it's fair for wealthy men like him to jump in and out of marriage with little repercussion?

Anyway like i said i want half of what was accumulated "during" our marriage.

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Abi: sister....listen I'm a man that believes in fair play regardless if it puts me at the back of the line... So look, if I get married and the Woman bring tings to the table then fair play she must be compensated if things don't work out... However come on, how is it a fair and reasonable compensation that after THREE months a person can walk away with a disporportionate amount of money for just walking down the aisle..Anyway you slice it that is just pure ****ery..sorry..

The implication is that some bum, man or woman( bring NOTHING to the table).can get married and in two/three month expect to get a substantial share of someone's house, earning for the privilage of being married a few months!!!! I seriously ask all these people applauding this decision to tell how that decisionis within the spirite of the marriage never mind natural justice...?

safetyblitz · (#58 (**permalink**))

The Farlane case, she deserved it because after 18 years of not working and being a stay at home mom she is behind in a lot of things in the workplace experience wise. This lady would have to compete with people 18 years younger than she asking for probably half of what she would need to live. SO I can see this.

The Miller case she should not have walked away with a lot. 5 million because she was wronged by his cheating? I thought divorce was for splitting not hurting the other person? 3 years does not entitle you to 33% of someone's income because I am sure he did not come about it all in the 2 years and 9 months they were married. I would had to be OJ on this one LOL..........

Maat · (#59 (**permalink**))

Soulstarr wrote:

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See how Maat brings us back to reality every time

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Don't cry sis. It's only money. Once it's been split I doubt that the two of them are going to be happy anyway. I really feel for the children.

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@MyThoughts: Money giving to the wife for life is work. She better go get that career she put aside for a while and forget trying to hit him financially. Seems like this is always the last resort married or not.

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@Incognito: I'm not sure about the law being on a woman's favour though. It just means that she now will have to be the mother and father because the law does what it can to keep the father away e.g. they still haven't given fathers equal paternity rights and even though there's talk of it it still isn't in effect. I don't know if you have children but can you magine what it must be like for a father to know and have 9 months of anticipation and excitement to see his child come into the world only to find that in some cases he can only get 1 day to be with that child. That is just wrong.

Abissinia · (#60 (**permalink**))

Maat wrote:

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@MyThoughts: Money giving to the wife for life is work. She better go get that career she put aside for a while and forget trying to hit him financially. Seems like this is always the last resort married or not.

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Sorry but how exactly do you expect a woman who was a lawyer earning Â£85k a year in 1990 to go back 16 years later and start from scratch. Have you ever thought what she could be earning now, if she was making 85K in 1990? Also if you think it's so important being a mother to the kids that money shouldn't come in to it then why is it ok for the man not to want to share the wealth? Sorry maybe i am getting this wrong but you're not making sense to me at all.

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@K
I understand where you're coming from, however if you read all my replies i did say i want half of the wealth accumulated while we were married, and i think if i contributedto the relationship in any way then its only fair i should alsosharethe success.