Letter writing

name · (#1 (**permalink**))

Okay folks

I could use some advice. I'm gonna be really cryptic because truthfully I find it difficult to talk about these things.

Anyway I theres a women I want, but I don't think it's gonna work out. I've thought about writing to her as I'm kinda clumsy when talking and just find it difficult to talk about these things.

The reason I've decided against it is because I've really got the feeling that things aren't reciprocal. What's the point if I've already figured it's just a one way thing?....well I just I've gotta go through with this regardless.

I've also heard that writing to women doesn't really do what you'd think. I wasn't planning to writing anything too syrupy or excessive.

So is it a good idea? bad? Any dames want to chip in.

Also I could actually use the advice. Sometimes people don't want to talk to anyone outside of their usual circle, or prolific posters. I've basically got about two weeks to decide what to do.

And feel free to open it up and talk generally (my preference rather than concentrating on me)

Thanks.

Kunjufu · (#2 (**permalink**))

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Originally Posted by name

Okay folks

I could use some advice. I'm gonna be really cryptic because truthfully I find it difficult to talk about these things.

Anyway I theres a women I want, but I don't think it's gonna work out. I've thought about writing to her as I'm kinda clumsy when talking and just find it difficult to talk about these things.

The reason I've decided against it is because I've really got the feeling that things aren't reciprocal. What's the point if I've already figured it's just a one way thing?....well I just I've gotta go through with this regardless.

I've also heard that writing to women doesn't really do what you'd think. I wasn't planning to writing anything too syrupy or excessive.

So is it a good idea? bad? Any dames want to chip in.

Also I could actually use the advice. Sometimes people don't want to talk to anyone outside of their usual circle, or prolific posters. I've basically got about two weeks to decide what to do.

And feel free to open it up and talk generally (my preference rather than concentrating on me)

Thanks.

sorry its too crytic..can you explain what you want a little more please?

Madam Butterfly · (#3 (**permalink**))

Name, correct me if i am wrong, but what i understand from what you have said is that you like a girl, but you don't believe she likes you back (or are not sure if she does). You feel too shy/embarressed to tell her face to face so you would rather write it in a letter. But you are not sure if that would be the "done thing".

I say it depends on the type of person she is. At the end of the day she may think its sweet, in an old fashioned way. On the other hand, she could be the bitchy type who shows it around to her friends and laughs about it behind your back.

At least if you get rejected "face to face" there is no evidence of your embarressment, except her word for it!!

That being said, a letter also gives her time to really think about it, as opposed to her feeling put on the spot by you asking her out.

I am curious though as to why you have put a time limit of two weeks on it. Is one or other of you not going to be around after that time? if so, i would question becoming involved if it is ging to end up as a long distance relationship.

So i guess my final advise would be (based on my limited knowledge of your situation) is even if you think she is not interested, think about how she may receive your letter. Is she the type to take it seriously, appreciate it, think about it etc? Or is she the type to dismiss it and basically disrespect you?

I am going to assume you have a good idea of what type of person she is because once you get that letter to her you have to trust what she will do with it.

I hope any of that was helpful lol

btw good looking out on not making it too syrupy. I can;t speak for your lady frined but i personally hate mush!

Just be direct and come to the point.